When shit goes down
Life is not all sunshine and roses. You need the rain for the roses to bloom, after all.
Nearly 4 years ago, I sat down on the couch after a long day at work and felt a sharp pain in my left hip. Two days ago, I had my second surgery to try to correct a number of issues that had meant that I have been unable to be fully mobile (dancing, walking up hills and running have been largely off the exercise menu) since early 2019.
There has been collateral damage too. I've been unable to wear high heels, I've put on 7kg and my body fat has doubled. My self-confidence has taken a nose-dive and I have become somewhat of a recluse.
While the first round of surgery was over nine months in the making with various scans, physiotherapy, steroid injections, a couple of stints on crutches, another round of steroid injections and a whole lot of wait-and-see; this experience has been completely different. About a month ago, I had what I thought was an innocent massage with someone who was highly recommended. My body had different ideas. I was bruised from butt to knee and my mobility was seriously impacted after the treatment. A couple of different treatments later and it was clear that there was something very amiss. Following an MRI, I saw another orthopaedic surgeon and five days later was on the operating table.
Proof that life can turn on a dime.
As with everything, when unexpected things come up - an accident, injury or job loss - we have a choice on how we respond. After nearly four years of almost constant pain, I was honestly excited to have a way forward. In times of uncertainty, it helps to trust your gut.
Other things that help in dealing with unexpected events include
Accept what you cannot control
Reconnect with your values
Being kind to yourself - increase small acts of self-care through your daily habits, show self-compassion and watch your internal dialogue
Remember and reflect on your past successes
Connect with people you trust
Integrate regular gentle exercise - walking, riding and swimming
Limit exposure to negativity - avoid the news, stay away from toxic people
Focus your mindset on the positive aspects of the future
Practice mindfulness meditation
Breathe - with intentional elongation on exhaling
